by Jeff Murphy | Alimony, Child Support, Custody, Divorce, Marriage counseling, Mediation, Spousal Support
Here’s a divorce question for you: Do you want to litigate your divorce or mediate it? Why do I ask, you say. Let’s put it another way, choose A or B: A. Do you want to see your money put the divorce attorneys’ kids through college? B. Do you want to...
by Jeff Murphy | Political Satire
Most of us who are trained mediators learned the process of “Principled Negotiation”. It’s the theory behind Roger Fisher and William Ury’s Great work -“Getting To Yes”. It teaches how to negotiate without compromising principles...
by Jeff Murphy | Custody, Holiday Parenting Advice, Marriage counseling, Mediation
In my last blog, I talked about using emails, etc., to communicate with your ex about parenting scheduling and conflicts. The idea, which came from a November 25, 2012 article in the New York Times (Kramer.com v Kramer.com), was designed to avoid disagreement, (to put...
by Jeff Murphy | Custody, Holiday Parenting Advice, Mediation
Late last November, the New York Times ran an article on the front page of its Style Section (nytimes.com 11/25/2012) entitled Kramer.com v Kramer.com. The gist of the piece was that unlike the old days when mothers were just about assured of being awarded primary or...
by Jeff Murphy | Alimony, Child Support, Mediation, Spousal Support
Now there is an interesting title for a man who makes his living as a divorce mediator! One of my mediator colleagues told me the other day that a former client of hers had been heard at the Family Court telling the referee that she (the mediator) hadn’t...