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Last Sunday, January 19,2014, the New York Times ran an interesting article in its Sunday Style section on Page 15. The article is titled: “In a Confrontation, a Secret is Revealed.” It’s about a couple whose marriage fell apart after the husband told his wife that he was gay and had been having affairs with
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In my last blog I strongly suggested you consider the cost of litigating your divorce. You don’t want to spend your money putting your attorneys’ children through college instead of your own kids. But maybe when you read that blog you thought, Murphy hasn’t got a clue how difficult my spouse can be to talk
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Here’s a divorce question for you: Do you want to litigate your divorce or mediate it? Why do I ask, you say. Let’s put it another way, choose A or B: A. Do you want to see your money put the divorce attorneys’ kids through college? B. Do you want to see your money put
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Most of us who are trained mediators learned the process of “Principled Negotiation”. It’s the theory behind Roger Fisher and William Ury’s Great work -“Getting To Yes”. It teaches how to negotiate without compromising principles but by examining each parties’ positions and exploring the underlying needs and interests to create options that can help reach
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In my last blog, I talked about using emails, etc., to communicate with your ex about parenting scheduling and conflicts. The idea, which came from a November 25, 2012 article in the New York Times (Kramer.com v Kramer.com), was designed to avoid disagreement, (to put it mildly), in front of the children.This may work in
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Late last November, the New York Times ran an article on the front page of its Style Section (nytimes.com 11/25/2012) entitled Kramer.com v Kramer.com. The gist of the piece was that unlike the old days when mothers were just about assured of being awarded primary or sole custody of their children in divorce, there is
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Now there is an interesting title for a man who makes his living as a divorce mediator! One of my mediator colleagues told me the other day that a former client of hers had been heard at the Family Court telling the referee that she (the mediator) hadn’t calculated his portion of his wife’s retirement
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There is an important article in the July 9, 2011 issue of the Wall Street Journal: “The Divorce Generation” http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052702303544604576430341393583056.html?KEYWORDS=the+divorce+generation The article reveals the problems of the adult children of divorced parents and their fear that they will follow in same miserable footsteps. Divorce is far more devastating on these people than we thought. They lived through
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On a recent Sunday, My wife and I were seated near the back of our local church. Since it was Spring break, the church wasn’t crowded. Across the aisle were two young couples, each with one child, a boy and a girl, and both about two years old. As the service wore on, the little
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Up to now, we’ve been talking about what you should be asking a prospective divorce lawyer in Kalamazoo. In a later blog, I’ll summarize all the questions to ask her as well as the questions you should ask yourself to determine what you really need. Here we’re going to examine what’s going on in the